therapists can assess, diagnose, and treat mental illness. a life coach guides and encourages people through personal challenges.

ultimately, both professions have value, and the work can look fairly similar between therapy and coaching. however, when assessment, diagnosis, and treatment of mental illness is needed, that work becomes therapy, and requires a licensed therapist.

here’s an article by benjamin e. caldwell, PsyD, for an in depth explanation:

https://tinyurl.com/35rjnjj9

no. a sex therapist is a licensed professional who treats clients with sexual concerns. these therapists hold advanced degrees in psychology, psychotherapy or other clinical professions and are usually certified by AASECT.

while i have self-led my studies in evidence-based research on sex and sexuality, i do not have the same intense exposure to the multitude of sexual concerns that sex therapists have.

if you have been diagnosed with a mental illness or have rare sexual health concerns, i highly recommend a sex therapist.

otherwise in my opinion, sex and sexuality are so deeply integrated with all other areas of life that coaching self-awareness, building self-esteem and healthy habits is usually enough to address most common issues.

if you're interested in a sex coaching package that focuses on helping people reach their sexual potential, contact me here

all the love we could ever hope for is present within us right now. doing "the work" is the process of deconstructing the conditions placed upon us by our culture that tells us whether or not we're good enough to experience that love.

everything you need is already within you. doing the work will help you shed all that keeps you from your optimal version so that you can fully shine your light.

there is a long tradition of black women breaking written grammar rules. grammar has a long history marginalizing groups of people and minimizing their intelligence. intentionally breaking them is a revolution. everybody has their own reasons but ultimately changing grammar is another way to express ourselves. personally, i use lower case letters as a reminder that everything is ultimately one, and that which is capitalized sits on a horizontal line of equanimity, not a vertical line of hierarchy.

yes. body image, self-esteem and eating habits are closely linked. learning to enjoy food without guilt, shame or worry and teaching yourself to crave nourishing food in a balanced amount is one of my specialities.

having pulled myself through my own process of disordered eating, i've found a process that works.

disordered eating is less about food and more about distorted self-image and a deep, personal need to be kind to yourself.

yes!

because the word "patriarchy" has been associated with women's bitterness toward men, unfortunately it can be rather off-putting. at best, many think the word is associated with women’s liberation and feminism and therefore irrelevant to their experience. this could not be further from the truth.

feminism for men is not about becoming more feminine.

it is about deconstructing harmful psychological patriarchy-- an overly compartmentalized, fractured personality and a compulsive need to dominate others (via sex, achievement or violence) in order to avoid feeling weak, worthless or vulnerable.

men would greatly benefit from working with me to build integrity.

not only would it help them to feel more secure in their masculinity and purpose on earth, but also guide them to cultivate a deeper connection with themselves and their feelings to love whole-heartedly and become better fathers, lovers, husbands, brothers and friends.